I don’t know about you, but the first time I heard about ‘role play sex’, I immediately thought of those really bad porn scenarios where a carpenter comes in to nail that lady whose house needs hammering.
Safe to say, I didn’t want to touch the idea. It seemed too awkward to try and even if I did decide to go through with it, I was petrified of embarrassing myself. Besides, there was always the concern that my partner would want something too specific.
You know, like being one of the mice in Cinderella, that just happens to want the cheese between her legs.
But I digress.
Sex role play always seemed like something too ‘out there’ for me. Even when I found some incredibly sexy maid outfits that I wanted to try on, the fear of looking ridiculous kept me from entertaining the idea.
It’s not that I’m a shy person when it comes to sex. I like using women’s sex toys with my partners in pretty much every opportunity, and I’m always ready to get off to some quality dirty talking, and this was on my list anyway.
So one night, when I was out with my partner, he decided to jokingly pursue the ‘stranger’ fantasy where we both pretended we didn’t know each other. For some reason, it got me hot and bothered pretty quickly. Suffice to say, we had a night I’ll never forget.
That was the eureka moment for me.
Thankfully, my partner was very into the idea of role play sex, so imaginations ran wild right after that little encounter.
I’m talking nurse, cop, teacher, boss, vampire, superhero, movie characters – you get the picture. Over the course of that single month, I probably went through every ‘classic’ sex role play scenario there ever was, and I loved every second of it.
I also learned a lot about what it means to have very good role play sex and how you can feel comfortable and sexy at the same time.
However, before we get to that, we need to cover the basics.
Talk it Out First
Like with most things sex-related, you and your partner need to have a conversation about what’s going to happen, when it’s going to happen and exactly how it’s going to go down.
It’s better to know upfront than realizing you’re really not into the idea when you’re already three inches in.
I recommend going through the scenario with your partner and just how it’s gonna work. As a novice, you don’t really know what you’re doing, so it’s better to plan ahead. This doesn’t mean you’ve got to write a script (even though it can be useful) but it does mean knowing how you’re gonna be moving from point A to ‘point O’.
Don’t go Overboard with the Expenses
What’s a teacher-student fantasy if it doesn’t involve a schoolgirl uniform and a cane?
You don’t need to spend big to have good role play sex. Most things you own are gonna do just fine, especially if you want to start with simple scenarios. The mailman needs a bag, the anxious housewife an apron, while the mistress needs some stockings and whatever homemade paddle to spank the servant with.
With that being said, if you wanna elevate your fantasy, go for props. You don’t need much either: a badge if you wanna be a cop, a nurse cap if you want a special way to ‘cure’ the patient, or maybe just a mop or a broom if you wanna entertain the maid scenario.
All these things usually cost less than 5 bucks, both online and at a store.
You’ll have more than enough time to up your game as the role play sex improves. Before you know it, your Amazon shopping cart will be full of Star Wars character outfits and women’s sex toys.
Start off with Basic Fantasies
Don’t go for super intricate fantasies right off the bat. This rule goes hand-in-hand with the props you plan on using.
I know. Playing out the entire Daenerys and Khal Drogo scene is hot, but you need some practice before you start moaning in Dothraki – and decorate the house with torches.
Starting off with something that doesn’t need props is a good way to break the ice and give you some time to get into the act.
For example, food play is usually a good place to start for sex role play. Either you’ll have a situation where you’re a chef preparing a cake, looking for a hungry customer to take the leftover whipped cream, or you can be the chocolatier that drips some of the chocolate over your partner’s body.
How about a hot workout with a personal trainer that’ll show you a way to stretch more than your legs. Or, a bell boy that knocks on your hotel room door for a special tip. Maybe try incorporating women’s sex toys by pretending you’re inside a sex toy shop, looking for new gadgets to play with.
Whatever you decide to go for, start off with something simple that works for both of you.
The World is Your Oyster
As far as I’m concerned, role play sex has definitely enriched sexy times with my partner.
From my initial reservations, I’ve now become the first to recommend using sex role play as a way to spice up people’s bedrooms – right next to using women’s sex toys.
It can create a special brand of intimacy between you and your partner into the bedroom, one that’s gonna add a zing to the way you explore each other’s fantasies, and strengthen your sex bond. As long as both of you have a clear idea on the do’s and don’ts, have fun digging into all those sexy fantasies you’ve always wanted to try out.