Have you ever had a wait-what’s-this moment in the bedroom?
Well, a ball gag can do that to you, especially if you never played around with one before!
For all lovers of a steamy toy bondage session, a ball gag can be quite a versatile tool to set your bed ablaze!
With an incredible variety of choices, shapes and sizes, a gag ball easily entices the imagination for those who like their bedroom games on the dirtier side.
As tricky little accessories to use, let’s unveil the mysteries behind why and how ball gags are used, thus smoothly transitioning into the ever-alluring world of BDSM.
Indulge Your Kinks!
The purpose of ball gags goes way deeper into the pain vs. pleasure concept of sex. To be quite honest, BDSM stirs up its fair share of controversies which also apply to using ball gags in the bedroom.
As one those extra sensitive topics buzzing with its stirring mystery, getting the gist of the using a ball gag can seem like entering unknown territory.
But, as sexual pleasure comes differently to everyone, ball gags might actually become a sex-toy regular in your bedroom!
Statistically speaking, the numbers are on your side, as analysis on sexual habits show that 72% of both men and women enjoy the occasional bedroom kink!
A Ball Gag?
Ball gags are spherically shaped toys, mostly made of plastic, rubber, or silicone. Their main purpose is being placed in the mouth and fixed by a rubber or leather string at the back of the head.
For those thriving on sub-dominant sex role-play, a ball gag makes a suit introduction to kink AF sex. Because, in the world of wicked erotic pleasure, nothing feels more stimulating than utter silence and consensual sexual control.
Technically, though, the partner wearing the ball is not completely at a loss for words. But, at the same time, it is the suppressed and gagging tune echoing under your sheets that essentially does the trick.
From Physical Constraints to Orgasmic Explosion
Sexual ball gag play is a great innovation that helps spice things up to a whole other level of power play. It is about rechannelling that high emotional charge of anxiety, fear, and helplessness into erotic pleasure, using just enough breath to take it all in and enjoy yourself.
The volcanic sexual energy from the variety of emotions in play, gradually accumulated with an impeded access to release leads to…
You guessed it! An orgasmic explosion!
Not being able to speak makes a fairly good start for your kink’s convulsive strings to vibrate, given that you are comfortable with taking on the role of the sub. Nevertheless, ball gags also require an unshakable level of mutual trust between both partners, followed by a previously negotiated consent and boundaries.
Hold your horses, more on this later.
Giving Up Control
Deciding to engage in BDSM role play is a bold step towards obtaining the ultimate sexual power control. As such, using ball gags demands a solid level of understanding and awareness of the relational dynamics taking place.
Pushing things to the edge of pleasure will truly alter and deepen the intimacy between two partners. To willingly sip from this sub-master sex play cocktail, turn to bondage sex toys for help. Ever the enhancers of your sex life, sex toys such as ball gags help embody the stigmatized dynamics of both giving up and acquiring control in bed.
To somewhat humanize the intense experience, you should ensure the sub wearing the ball gag gives away control to a certain point. At the same time, the master or dominant experiments with a variety of intense emotions and sensations the sub might enjoy.
All talk regarding using ball gags during sex should be done beforehand. When discussing the kink, determine who’ll be the sub and who’ll be the dom. Moreover, talk out any discomforts or concerns and find a suitable solution for them.
Whoever becomes the sub should surrender the power control, and offer a delicate sexual plate of erogenous zones for the dom to play with. And, all that should be executed with the utmost desire, passion and consideration towards the sub and vice versa.
One of the pillars of a successful and satisfying BDSM session is, obviously, trust. Only when you create trust between you two can you expect for that intense physical and emotional response to occur. The essence of experimenting with a ball gag is not experiencing arising feelings of humiliation, powerlessness, and constraint, but converting that intensity into an erotic build-up to remember.
Ball Gags: A Beginner’s Guide
The territory of bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism can be both provoking and challenging, depending on how you look at the kink. If we had to sum up BDSM play into one sentence, it would be this: The things you see are never what they pose to be.
In the case of ball gags and sexual power play, there is always a wide array of unique personal experiences. Still, the intel on the topic is so broad that simply observing and researching the fundamentals of BDSM can inspire you to experiment with it firsthand.
But, just to keep you on the safe side of BDSM play, it is crucial for you to read and research the topic and share your knowledge with your sex partner.
Yes, experiencing a contemplated ball gag sex scenario might feel overwhelming for beginners.
But, instead of rushing yourself to pleasure, try to create a list of useful tips to help you gradually transition your BDSM games from basic to bold! Throughout the making of your list, keep in mind that it is wise to discuss various aspects of pleasure. These include
sharing your fantasies and deep desires, your boundaries and limits, safewords (and a few of them, too!), as well as protection and hygiene. Trust me, this is the only way to truly invest in mutual trust and mutual pleasure.
Before you are ready for the experienced-BDSM-players-only scenario, you can take things slow. For your first-ever gag experience, instead of a ball gag, try using a clean washcloth.
During your play, keep your eyes open for bodily signals your partner might be sending. Remember, whoever submits won’t be able to speak, so body language such as intense blinking can help keep you on the same side of pleasure.
Safety Tips for Your Ultimate Ball Gag Tryst
Exploring the pleasure behind using ball gags is one thing, but you never want to overdo your experience. Initially, play around with the idea of just wearing the ball gag without engaging sexually with your partner. Once you get accustomed to having it on, you will rapidly familiarize with the effects and sensations a ball gag delivers. As your jaw is open when wearing it, you might experience excess salivation, so make sure you bring tissues.
Prolonged and fixated jaw opening, on the other hand, might cause panic in some. Should that happen in your case, always remember to use your safe word or signal.
If your partner has a cold, a runny nose, or even upset stomach, avoid using a ball gag altogether.
When stepping into the shoes of a dominant, it is hyper-important to check your gagged partner frequently. This way, the master can ensure their partner’s safety and enjoyment and enforce their mutual trust even further.
Some ball gags come with connected strings that allow you to tie the hands as well. However, if you are not comfortable with this somewhat more demanding scenario, leave it for when you gather enough experience. In time, this level of restraining can play a vital part in improving the quality of your BDSM skills.
In many cases, both partners agree to use a tapping gesture on the back- once, twice or thrice- depending on the message you want to send. If your play gets too rough or intense for your liking, turn to the tap method to take the control down a notch. Or, you are always welcome to come up with your own signalling technique and use it instead of a safe word.
Also noteworthy to mention is knowing that there is a variety of ball gags to explore, especially for beginners. At the end of the day, for the safest BDSM experience, start with a breathable ball gag and work your way up to more advanced kinds.
Ball Gag Aftercare
If there’s anything more important than your ball gag play, it is the aftercare you provide your partner with once all is said and done. As you both experienced an intensity of emotions during your BDSM sex play, it is only fair to allow your emotions to wear off.
That said, give yourself the freedom to cuddle, spoon, kiss and hug right after your game ends. What felt especially arousing about the experience? What were your least favourite parts? What was different from the expectations you had? If you are in the mood for talking, by all means, share all of your impressions with your partner.
Is talking not your forte post-coitus?
No worries, a hot shower for two might do you some good.
Stay open,
Stay audacious,
Stay Devine!