Much of what I share with you here is about how to sexually please yourselves. However, there is a lot of pleasure in providing pleasure for your partner. Seeing your partner twisting and turning or letting out the occasional gasp as you do your magic can be a truly fulfilling experience.
Every sexual event is meant to raise you higher up on the pleasure ladder, and the effort we put in satisfying our partners sexually plays a role. Therefore, pleasing your man orally is one of those moments where you can be the master, controlling his most sensitive part.
Ladies, if you get this right, there will be new neural wiring in his brain wearing your name! Pay attention!
Where to Start?
You start with acknowledging your enemy – the gag reflex, scientifically known as the pharyngeal reflex, whose role is to defend us from external objects that may get stuck in our airways and cause choking. Be aware that your mouth was not made for sucking dick, so it’s important to train yourself to control this reflex. There are some techniques that can help, such as deep relaxation while staying focused on your breathing during deep throating. First, go through some practice to gain a sense of when and how the gag reflex is provoked, and use smaller, thoroughly-cleaned objects to get to the area that triggers it.
Lessening the Sensitivity
You’ll need to dedicate some time to create awareness on the roof of your mouth toward the back of your throat, where people are usually most prone to react to stimuli. You can start with smaller phallic-like objects such as your toothbrush or your finger, and pay attention when the reflex is activated.
The best way is to focus on your breathing – inhale and exhale in long intervals, then slowly edge the object towards the back of your throat. Once you start feeling the reflex, try to keep your focus on the breathing and count your breaths – if you reach 10, you’re ready for a real deep throat experience.
This should be enough to get familiar with how the reflex mechanism gets triggered, and first-timers may still like to try with a dildo to build more resilience towards the stimuli. But don’t worry if you don’t succeed right away! Many women have over-sensitive throats and simply can’t control the gag reflex, so they need more practice and preparation.
There is a way to go through and still make your man cum by using your hand at the root of his penis, and taking a position where you’re more in control of the thrusts in your mouth. The key mastery is the use of your tongue at the head of his penis, exploring its girth and the tip all around, until he can’t control his orgasmic geyser.
Breathing While Deep Throating
When you’re ready to taste your deep throating experience, you might notice that it’s not actually that easy to breathe with a penis deep in the throat, and this may trigger vomiting, or even a call to the emergency room. Keep in mind that it’s important to have your nose decongested so that the air can flow without any constraints, but even then if your man is well-endowed, breathing can be tough. Here how you can work around that:
Try to master the flow of the movement and the rhythm of your exhales. Breathe in when the head of the penis thrusts inside the mouth, and breathe out in the short time it’s outside or retreating – and take breaks if necessary!
Positions
There are a couple of things you will have to get used to, such as the breathing rhythm, controlling the spasms on the roof of your throat, and of course, enjoying yourself while doing it. Nevertheless, your mouth will get wet – and this is really the great part of this adventure, as it should be very slippery and wet! Keep a big bottle of water near the bed and hydrate sufficiently before getting down to business.
In order to build up mastery, try to choose a position that gives you better control. The angle should be such that the thrusting penis can move diagonally directly to the throat, where you still can maintain some control. Your man should minimize the movement of his pelvis and let you dictate the whole thing.
You can try with the famous 69 where you take the top role. This position makes deep throating awesome as it makes you taste both the dominant and the sub role. Or, you can even ask your partner to sit on a chair while you place your knees on the floor and give his erect highness the full royal treatment.
Advanced Deep Throating Techniques
When you can sense that you’ve reached the territory where the gag reflex is controllable, you can try out some additional techniques to enhance the deep throat experience for your partner.
One very simple yet powerful technique is to produce a humming sound while the head of the penis is deep in your throat. The sound will provide vibrations on the sensitive tip of the penis and intensify the orgasm of your partner.
Another rather challenging technique is to play out the gag reflex and ‘use’ the contracting spasms of the pharyngeal muscles for additional excitement and pressure on the tip of the penis.
However, this requires real mastery over the natural defending reflexes of the body, and it has a downside – if you can’t control your throat spasm you may involuntarily bite down when you gag – and that’s a visit to the ER right there. An easily avoidable one!
Deep throating is truly an exciting experience that can add a new dimension to your couple sexploits, so get him aroused and make him cum in ways he didn’t even think were possible.
So, always remember ladies:
Stay audacious,
Stay adventurous,
Stay Devine!
