If sex was a food menu in a restaurant, anal would probably be the least ordered item, despite it being one of the tastiest. It’s sad how many people carry misconceptions about anything anal related.
From the classic ‘there are no nerves there so it won’t be pleasurable’ to the most common ‘ew, it’s unhygienic’, there are plenty of reasons why people wouldn’t dare go anywhere near the backdoor. Women’s sex toys, a penis, or even just a finger in the behind can change sex for a lot of people especially because it’s a way to season things in the bedroom.
Don’t get me wrong, I have some interesting stories with anal fingering, I’ve learned a thing or two about it, and I’m here to share what I know!
So, to minimize the chance of you having a horror story, Lady Devine will tell you all about it.
Together, we’re gonna take baby steps and start with the Dos and Don’ts of fingering first, before taking out the big guns. So for those of you who would like to try it, there are a few things that you should and shouldn’t do when trying anal fingering.
The Absolute Dos
Talk about it
Before you dive into anything sex-related, talking about it is the most crucial thing is and always has been! For anal fingering, in particular, setting clear boundaries of how far you’re willing to go and what you or your partner are comfortable with is vital.
If you talk about it, you’ll also give or receive consent so no one will be surprised when the finger comes close to the backdoor. Don’t be shy to tell your partner that you want to try it out and you just might end up surprised by the answer. You’ll never know if you don’t talk about it, will you?
Start off slow
Once you’ve moved past the initial talk, take things slow. Play around with the area around the anus and relax the muscles with an anal massage and maybe try rimming, if you’re comfortable with it.
You’ll be tempted to move on to toys immediately and while there are a lot of women’s sex toys specifically for anal play, you should start off slow at first and get used to it. You could even try ass fingering while you’re masturbating to get accustomed to the idea and the sensation. No need to rush it, there’s time and place for everything.
Use Lube
Unlike the vagina which has its own natural lubrication, the anus doesn’t so external lubrication is a must. Don’t spare the lube and coat your fingers with a generous amount of lube so that they can move more easily.
If your fingers aren’t lubricated enough, not only is it painful but there’s a risk of breaking the skin around the anus and getting an infection. With lube, the sensation will be better for both partners, in and out!
The Strict Don’ts
Double Dip
I mean do we even have to talk about this? Yes, we absolutely do because people still make the same mistake. There’s a reason why people say that you shouldn’t wipe from the back to the front and there’s a reason why you shouldn’t double dip!
During anal fingering, dipping your finger inside the anus and then dipping that same finger in the vagina can introduce bacteria and potentially cause an infection. The vagina is moist and it’s a dream place for any bacteria lingering in the backside.
This goes for any women’s sex toys you might be using, don’t use them in both holes without properly cleaning them in between.
Drill
We’re engaging in some consensual butt play not using drilling for gold! Of course, you’ll want to move fast as you’re reaching the final destination but you don’t want to do that in the beginning. We all call it the backdoor but imagine it as a real door you have to slowly open. You can’t go jamming your key into the keyhole!
The first couple of times, and I’m using the term couple very loosely, will require a lot of adjusting until your anal muscles get used to the intrusion. That’s why you should go slow in the beginning when anal fingering because you might injure your anus.
Don’t Neglect the Clit
Ah, that small bundle of nerves, responsible for the best orgasms a woman can have. Stimulating several sweet spots is never a bad thing and combining clitoral stimulation with ass fingering can help further relax the area.
As soon as the pleasure waves from the clit start to kick in, it will not only relax the muscles around the anus but also enhance the overall feeling. So don’t neglect that sweet bud next time. Just because one hand is busy doesn’t mean that the other hand is out of order! Play around with it but not like how you’d play with a PS4 controller!
Conclusion
Women’s sex toys are fun and all but sometimes the finger can do the job just as nicely, especially if you’re just trying out anal play. As with anything, there are a few dos and don’ts that will make your life easier – and hopefully painless!
It’s important to be on the same page with your partner before you try it out so there is no surprise when the time comes. Lube up your fingers, take slow, and relax! Whether it’s solo or with a partner, anal fingering can be very pleasurable!
Don’t forget the clitoris as it will help you ease into the fingering, and give you an all-round better feeling! And for the love of everything sexy, don’t drill in both holes with the same finger as if you’re looking for gold! Take care of your health first and pleasure will follow.
Hopefully, I’ve cleared some of your misconceptions about backdoor play and you’ll get to try it without fear. Don’t be fearful of trying out that unknown item on the menu everyone steers clear from, you just might fall in love with it.
Stay curious,
Stay satisfied,
Stay Devine!
